Systemické konstelace

What is family constellation and how can it help you?

Today family constellation is a popular metod how to restore equilibrium in your life and in your family. To be able to live a happy and fulfilling life you need a solid fundament and the support and strengths of your close family members. You need acceptance and to be part of the systém (family) where you have your own place.

In every family rules and hierarchy are a necessity. Only then love can flourish and every member of the family is a part of a never endless source of energy. Then you are albe to accept life, able to manage daily difficulties and even moments of destiny. Then you are as a river which flose forever and never dries up!

But how is the situation nowdays? Every third marriage ends in a divorce, children grow up in families where their parents have an unhealthy conflictous relationship, some of us still carry the fears from the conflicts we lived throught. The problem is that we are unaware about it. And precisely here family constellation can help us. It is observation and exploration metod, not a clinical therapy. It is neither a means to determine „what it really was like that time“. Family constellation is a simply and natural method helps to client to get back to his life, makes him live in the present, and to untwists family complications. When we accept our own limits we become really free.

3 laws of family constellation:

The law of unity.

The systém needs balance and if somebody is rejected by the family, he will in one way or another, come back. And he will not rest until the others in the family said: „you belong to us“ and invited him back. The law of unity means that everybody in the family has a right to his own place in the systém and if this right is withhelt, the systém becomes to unbalance and energy can not flow.

The law of hierarchy.

The second law is called hierarchy and it means that in a family exist a systém of precedence which we must respect! Children born in the family earlier has a precedence over those born later. Parents have precedence over their children, just as the relationship of the parents have precedence over the maternal relationship. Accepting the systém of precedence in itself has a already a stabilazing (beneficial) effect.

The law of giving and taking.

The last, but not least important law. Giving and taking must always be balanced. Parents give and children take – never the opposite. When parents give love and care, their children feel a debt and thus give to their children and so on. This is the circle of life. For relationships giving and taking must be balanced, otherwise a relationship will run aground.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Seminars and courses of FC:

Before the course it would be helpfull to find out:

• Did anybody from family die before his/her time – before50 and do not forget on abortion!

• Did anybody die in war or as a result of war?

• Has anybody been in the army and /or fought in the war?

• Did anybody cause an accident with lethal victims? Or was somebody a victim him or herself?

• Has anybody been in your family commited murder, or was a victim of murder?

• Has anybody in your familycommittided suicide?

• Are there in your family orphans or illegitimate children and did anybody endure hardship in his or her life?

• Has anybody been in contretration camps, in a gulago, revoltion or has anybody cooperated with partizans?

• Has anybody been in prison?

• Has anybody been disinherited from his/her country or is there anybody who emigrated? Does anybody live abroad?

• Did your family loss possessions for whatever reason?

• Has anybody been disinherited by older sibling?

• Was there anybody who could not marry his/her love?

• Has anybody been in a monastery?

• Divorces, separations...?

• Was any member of your family disabled?

• Was anybody hospitalized for long time?

• Addiction on alcohol, drugs, food, relationships...?

• Are there any secrets in your family – taboos you should not talk about it?

• Strange destinies in your family – foreigners?

• Has anybody in your family been adopted or has been given to adoption?

 

Before the course every participant must fills in an application and a declaration. The declaration needs to be filled out completely and signed. Without the declaration it is not possible to attend.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Contents of the course:

During the course constellations are built round themes important to the partisipants. We focus on areas that are the most problematic for the participants – for example relationship problems, family, company, human body, healthness and so on. If you have problems with your partner, it is not necessary for him to be there. But you can not solve the problem without him! A constellation can be built only for your problem. It is best to choose a topic of constellation that is the most problematic for you and to descripe it in just one sentence.

Do you know what problem you want to solve first of all? Imagine you have a wishing well and with wish you can get rid of one problem...which one would it be?

For the formulation of your problem you sit down with the lector who ask you the basic facts of your family. Then he tells you which members of family you should include into the constellation. The players are chosen from the participants in the course.You should choose by heart and intuition, not by logic. Dont players pay attention to the physical appearance of the participants. Then the client sits down and observes the players. After a while the players in the constellation can feel different – they can be cold, feel rejected, want to stare in a certain, want to laught or cry. The systém goes on and on until it converges into a figure that is meaningful to the client and from which he or she can draw energy. This constellation is supervised by a lector. In the end client changes place with one of the players.

In the end a client has a new healing inner image, which has a healing effect on him or her.

Analyzing might destroy image, therefore it is not advised to share your feelings wiht others. No analyzing or taking acute decissions at least 3 days after constellation.

The energy is changing and a inner image is installed...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stories from constellations:

Jana is a 53 year old woman who lives with her husband. They have 2 children together. A daughter of 28 and a son of 24 years old. The topic of constellation was her complicated relationship with her husband. She would like him to spend more time with her and to give her more attention. The husband used to have problems with alcohol, now he is a passionate sportman. It is her first marriage.

Her mom was psychicaly threated and took anti-depresive pills. Father her mother´s committed suicide. Grand-grandfather from mother´s side was in the war, after that he got a T.B and died.

Her husband´s grandfather from mother´s side was in the war too. After he returned he married and they had a daughter – the husband´s mother. After the war he was arrested. He died in jail.

The husband´s father was in working camp in Germany, he escaped and hid in his homevillage.

Constellation: Jane tries to change her husband and to dominate him. He does not like this He has no space for himself. He feels as a little boy who is brough up by his mother. He would rather go to the pub. He does not feel being the head of the family. Jana has to solve her relationship with her parents at first – especially with her mother. She must not expect from her husband more than he is able to give. Her husband wants his wife to be happy and to be able to enjoy her life. He wants her to stop concentrating only on him!

 

Martina visited constellation, because she was very depressed by her working situation. Now she must decide between 2 offers and she would like to be successful there. Ongoing she feels she is not in a good shape. Her relationship and even house are slowly falls down. The needed repairs in the house´s her energy. She has 2 kids. The older son is 18, the younger one 8 years old. In her former job she was not paid on time, she needs money and therefore wants to find a new job.

She does not know her biological father. She was adopted by mother´s partner.

Constellation showed that finding a new job is not the real problem. The constellation indicated a person who is missed in her family. He biological father must waive the right to his daughter and accept that her adoptive father is bigger than him!